Important Message about LEARN NC

LEARN NC is evaluating its role in the current online education environment as it relates directly to the mission of UNC-Chapel Hill School of Education (UNC-CH SOE). We plan to look at our ability to facilitate the transmission of the best research coming out of UNC-CH SOE and other campus partners to support classroom teachers across North Carolina. We will begin by evaluating our existing faculty and student involvement with various NC public schools to determine what might be useful to share with you.

Don’t worry! The lesson plans, articles, and textbooks you use and love aren’t going away. They are simply being moved into the new LEARN NC Digital Archive. While we are moving away from a focus on publishing, we know it’s important that educators have access to these kinds of resources. These resources will be preserved on our website for the foreseeable future. That said, we’re directing our resources into our newest efforts, so we won’t be adding to the archive or updating its contents. This means that as the North Carolina Standard Course of Study changes in the future, we won’t be re-aligning resources. Our full-text and tag searches should make it possible for you to find exactly what you need, regardless of standards alignment.

You have educated yourself and understand the pro-LGBTQIA stance. Although you may not agree with it, you want to behave in a caring and sensitive manner and be a role model to your students. Tolerance means you act civilly and accept another’s right to be who they are, not that you like another’s behavior. Here are some suggestions on how to do it.

If you want to act tolerantly, DO the following:

  1. Use individuals’ preferred terms, names, and pronouns.
  2. Take each person at face value without connection to sexuality or gender identity.
  3. Familiarize yourself with the vocabulary and avoid offensive slang, such as those identified in the National Lesbian and Gay Journalist Association’s Stylebook Supplement to LGBT Terminology
  4. Respect people’s privacy. Many LGBTQIQ people are not “out” in all situations, so please don’t tell others without their permission.
  5. Admit to discomfort on LGBTQIA subjects in a calm, disinterested manner: “I feel uncomfortable discussing this subject. Could we talk about this later?”
  6. Talk to LGBTQIA people about commonalities, such as hobbies or work.
  7. Be aware of heterosexual privilege and its effects. For example, how do same sex parents feel when a school only acknowledges/communicates with one of the parents?
  8. Teach your students and own children (or future children, nieces, and nephews) to treat everyone with respect regardless of differences and disagreements.
  9. Learn more about aspects of LGBTQ life that you do respect.
  10. Remember that some people will view your rejecting their sexual orientation or gender identity as rejecting them personally and will respond to you emotionally.
  11. Assume that LGBTQIA people are in all settings, including people who are married or have children, and help create safe environments for them.
  12. Talk to a counselor if your feelings interfere with your relationship with an individual.
  13. For elementary school teachers, remind parents at the beginning of the school year that being excluded from birthday parties can be hurtful and to encourage their children not to discuss their parties in school.
  14. Avoid laughing along with anti-gay, homophobic, transphobic, or heterosexist remarks, jokes, or comments. As a teacher, it is your job to speak up against it immediately. If you are not assertive or confrontational by nature, practice phrases to use in order to become comfortable speaking up.
  15. Postpone discussing issues that will likely get you heated or emotionally upset. Rational thoughtful dialogue is difficult with heightened emotions.
  16. Avoid well-meaning statements that are actually demeaning such as “I still think you are a good person” or (to a transman) “you look like a ‘real’ man.”
  17. Avoid asking invasive personal questions that you would not ask a heterosexual or a cisgender person (someone whose biological sex matches their gender):
    To a trans* person:
    Are you “really” a man or a woman?
    Have you had the surgery? or Are you going “all the way?”
    Are you gay or straight?
    What is your “real” name?
    To a lesbian, gay, bisexual, or queer person
    Which one of you is the “man/woman” during sex?
    Have you tried sex with the opposite sex?
    Are you attracted to so-and-so?
    Why did you choose to be gay?
    What do you think think made you gay?