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Learning outcomes

Students will learn:

  • that sometimes we are surprised when we spend time with someone we previously thought we would not like and find this person to be very likable and he/she may become a great friend.
  • not to judge someone until they really get to know them well.
  • that spending time with someone is the best way to get to know them.
  • that our friendships can fluctuate and change.

Teacher planning

Time required for lesson

30-40 minutes


  • Friendship Recipe attachment
  • Book: Enemy Pie by Derek Munson
  • Index cards for grades 2-3. Large sheet of paper for K-1 grades for “class friendship recipe”
  • Bowl, measuring cups, and a pie plate as props

Technology resources

Make an overhead of the Friendship Recipe attachment.


  1. The school counselor/teacher will ask students to help her brainstorm ingredients (for about five minutes) for a secret recipe for creating great friends.
  2. The counselor/teacher will then read the book, Enemy Pie by Derek Munson. Discussion of the book will follow.
    Ask students:

    • What does the word “enemy” mean to you?
    • Why do you think children have enemies?
    • Why was Jeremy Ross on his “enemy list”?
    • What did the boy learn from spending the entire day with his number one enemy?
    • How did he manage to turn his enemy into a friend?
  3. Look at the example of a recipe for “Friendship Pie.” Tell each student they may become famous for their new “Friendship Pie” which will be even bigger and better than the example with all their great ideas on friendship. Encourage them to use the measurement tools they have learned in math this year.
  4. Kindergarten and first graders will make a class recipe with the counselor/teacher writing the recipe on a large sheet of paper. Second and third grade classrooms will each be given an index card to make their own “Friendship Pie.”
  5. Summarize the meaning of friendships through students sharing their “soon to be famous” friendship recipe(s) with the class.


Students will be able to discuss the questions posed by the counselor/teacher concerning Enemy Pie. Students will be able to create at least four ingredients for their recipe for friendship.

  • North Carolina Essential Standards
    • Guidance (2010)
      • Early Emergent/Emergent

        • EEE.SE.2 Understand the relationship between self and others in the broader world. EEE.SE.2.1 Contrast the influence of self and others in relationship building. EEE.SE.2.2 Explain why it is important to follow rules in order to build relationships. EEE.SE.2.3...
      • Readiness/Exploration/Discovery

        • RED.SE.2 Understand the relationship between self and others in the broader world. RED.SE.2.1 Identify ways of making and keeping friends. RED.SE.2.2 Understand how to support positive relationship building (e.g., managing impulsivity, adaptability, and flexibility)....

North Carolina curriculum alignment

Guidance (2001)

Grade K–5

  • Goal 7: Acquire the attitudes, knowledge and interpersonal skills to help understand and respect self and others.
    • Objective 7.14: Demonstrate how to make and keep friends.